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RedEyE
06-22-2003, 09:41 PM
This past Friday during a get together with a few coworkers, I kissed my boss. She kissed me back.


To make things worse - - - - - She's married


and really hot.



I'm an idiot! Monday is going to be extremely awkward.

Typ0
06-22-2003, 09:42 PM
Did you boink her?

RedEyE
06-22-2003, 09:43 PM
No. And I'm not sure if that's a good thing or a bad thing.

Typ0
06-22-2003, 09:44 PM
Do you want too?

lordofgun
06-22-2003, 09:45 PM
:eek: I guess that starflyer song doesn't apply to you anymore. :jk:

Just report her to upper management. Say you want a raise or you'll file sexual harrassment charges. :D

RedEyE
06-22-2003, 09:45 PM
How do I know you're not some sort of spy from work?

Paranoia really setting in now.

Typ0
06-22-2003, 09:46 PM
Go into her office tomorrow and say:

I want you to give me a raise...oh wait you already did...why don't you give me another raise.

RedEyE
06-22-2003, 09:46 PM
Originally posted by lordofgun
:eek: I guess that starflyer song doesn't apply to you anymore. :jk:

Just report her to upper management. Say you want a raise or you'll file sexual harrassment charges. :D


:rofl:

lordofgun
06-22-2003, 09:46 PM
She demanded that kiss or you were fired. Just keep telling yourself that. :D

RedEyE
06-22-2003, 09:47 PM
Originally posted by Typ0
Go into her office tomorrow and say:

I want you to give me a raise...oh wait you already did...why don't you give me another raise.

:lol:

Your killing me

RedEyE
06-22-2003, 09:48 PM
It's really more of a moral issue at this point. She's married. Work really has very little to do with it.

Again, I'm an idiot.

RedEyE
06-22-2003, 09:49 PM
I blamed tequilla on Saturday, but I've learned to forgive since then.

Typ0
06-22-2003, 09:50 PM
When you go to work tomorrow stuff a pair of rolled up socks in your pants.

RedEyE
06-22-2003, 09:51 PM
lol


Does that really work? j/k

lordofgun
06-22-2003, 09:51 PM
Tell her you want her husband to join in next time. That'll get rid of her.

honey
06-22-2003, 09:51 PM
Oh, Redeye, shame, shame. :( Just go into her office and apologize profusely and say it will never happen again, you didn't mean to put her into an awkward position, you were drunk (or something) and blah, blah, blah. Then just act professional until she gets her divorce. :D

Typ0
06-22-2003, 09:52 PM
Make sure you have the socks in your pants though.

RedEyE
06-22-2003, 09:53 PM
Originally posted by lordofgun
Tell her you want her husband to join in next time. That'll get rid of her.

He was standing right there. Saw the whole thing.


Actually that part is a lie, but wow wouldn't that have been ballsy?

honey
06-22-2003, 09:53 PM
:eek: Forget the freaking socks! Geez - the guy feels bad enough. Help him out a bit, you all! Just apologize, make sure you approach her first, it will go better then. :up:

RedEyE
06-22-2003, 09:53 PM
Originally posted by honey
Oh, Redeye, shame, shame. :( Just go into her office and apologize profusely and say it will never happen again, you didn't mean to put her into an awkward position, you were drunk (or something) and blah, blah, blah. Then just act professional until she gets her divorce. :D


I talked to her yesterday and she doesn't want me to go away.

Typ0
06-22-2003, 09:54 PM
What kind of kiss was this anyway?

lordofgun
06-22-2003, 09:54 PM
I bet she's not married. It's probably a high school ring.

RedEyE
06-22-2003, 09:54 PM
We both have no regrets.

Typ0
06-22-2003, 09:55 PM
Originally posted by honey
:eek: Forget the freaking socks! Geez - the guy feels bad enough. Help him out a bit, you all! Just apologize, make sure you approach her first, it will go better then. :up:

I disagree Honey. Be a pig. Make her feel guilty. She's your boss dammit don't mess up an opportunity like this.



AND USE THE SOCKS!

RedEyE
06-22-2003, 09:55 PM
Originally posted by Typ0
What kind of kiss was this anyway?

Oh about 2 1/2 hours worth of conversation and passionate groping.

honey
06-22-2003, 09:55 PM
Well, then, don't feel bad about it! Just enjoy....:D Unless it's a moral issue for you.

Typ0
06-22-2003, 09:56 PM
Did you feel her up?

RedEyE
06-22-2003, 09:56 PM
Originally posted by Typ0
Did you feel her up?

I think your enjoying this a little too much.:evil:

honey
06-22-2003, 09:56 PM
Originally posted by RedEyE


Oh about 2 1/2 hours worth of conversation and passionate groping.

Ummmm, I would assume a divorce is on the way.....

lordofgun
06-22-2003, 09:57 PM
This is exactly why I don't work.

Typ0
06-22-2003, 09:58 PM
Originally posted by RedEyE


I think your enjoying this a little too much.:evil:

Well did you?

honey
06-22-2003, 09:58 PM
:rofl: My boss is an old man! I have no worries! :lol:

RedEyE
06-22-2003, 09:58 PM
Originally posted by honey


Ummmm, I would assume a divorce is on the way.....


Do you really think so? I just don't know if my presence is going to make a difference one way or another. We talked yesterday and she never mentioned divorce. She just sounded a little unhappy about the current status of marriage.

honey
06-22-2003, 09:59 PM
Knock it off, Typ0 - you pervert! :rofl:

lordofgun
06-22-2003, 09:59 PM
Do you look anything like her husband? If so, I bet this was all a big misunderstanding.

RedEyE
06-22-2003, 09:59 PM
Originally posted by lordofgun
This is exactly why I don't work.

Yeah - My Catholic guilt is really filling in today

RedEyE
06-22-2003, 10:00 PM
Originally posted by lordofgun
Do you look anything like her husband? If so, I bet this was all a big misunderstanding.

:lol:

No.

RedEyE
06-22-2003, 10:01 PM
Originally posted by Typ0


Well did you?

Within my silence lies the answer.

honey
06-22-2003, 10:01 PM
Originally posted by RedEyE



Do you really think so? I just don't know if my presence is going to make a difference one way or another. We talked yesterday and she never mentioned divorce. She just sounded a little unhappy about the current status of marriage.

If she allows someone to kiss and grope her, you can bet divorce will follow pretty soon. Why the heck else would any married woman let someone else touch them in that way? Not that you'er to blame in any way, I'm just saying that's the way it is. Well, with me anyway. I'd never let another man touch me unless I was completely unhappy with the marriage and wanted it to be over. Who knows, though, I'm not her. :)

Typ0
06-22-2003, 10:03 PM
Originally posted by RedEyE


Within my silence lies the answer.

Did she slip you the tongue?

RedEyE
06-22-2003, 10:03 PM
Originally posted by honey


If she allows someone to kiss and grope her, you can bet divorce will follow pretty soon. Why the heck else would any married woman let someone else touch them in that way? Not that you'er to blame in any way, I'm just saying that's the way it is. Well, with me anyway. I'd never let another man touch me unless I was completely unhappy with the marriage and wanted it to be over. Who knows, though, I'm not her. :)

Grope is such a crappy word - I shouldn't have used it earlier.

Your thoughts are exactly my own.

lordofgun
06-22-2003, 10:04 PM
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RedEyE
06-22-2003, 10:04 PM
Originally posted by Typ0


Did she slip you the tongue?

Corporate spy :ontome:

honey
06-22-2003, 10:06 PM
Passionate = tongue, Typ0. Ya pervert! :rofl:

Ummm, probably means a lot more, as well! :D

Typ0
06-22-2003, 10:06 PM
I have pictures. I could see her nipples perked up...but I couldn't tell about the tongue.

lordofgun
06-22-2003, 10:08 PM
Originally posted by RedEyE
Grope is such a crappy word - I shouldn't have used it earlier.


I prefer to call it "heavy petting."

Typ0
06-22-2003, 10:09 PM
I prefer to call it "a cheap feel".

RedEyE
06-22-2003, 10:09 PM
Just to clarify:

I made the first move. We stayed at the bar after everyone else left. I began by explaining to her how I felt about her because she stated that she might leave the company later this year. After my confession she stated that she has felt the same way for a long time. We've known each other for 2 years. I wan't to see her again, but not at the expense of her husband's feelings.

Overall, the situation is extremely akward, and her husband is going to feel like **** if he finds out.

Typ0
06-22-2003, 10:11 PM
In all seriousness. Put it behind you. Don't get involved with her. She is married. It will turn into a big mess.

RedEyE
06-22-2003, 10:11 PM
It's off my chest now and I feel a little better.

honey
06-22-2003, 10:11 PM
Do you know her husband? Are you friends with him at all? :( Bad vibes, man. Are you "in love" with her? Don't lead her on - at this point it's all lust, you can get over that. Kids involved? Bad scene if there are. Geez, what a dilemma.

RedEyE
06-22-2003, 10:12 PM
Originally posted by Typ0
In all seriousness. Put it behind you. Don't get involved with her. She is married. It will turn into a big mess.


I hate to admit it, but you're probably absolutely right.

Typ0
06-22-2003, 10:13 PM
Make sure you have sex with her before you don't get involved though...I forgot to say that.


:D

honey
06-22-2003, 10:14 PM
Originally posted by RedEyE



I hate to admit it, but your probably absolutely right.

I SWEAR! People are doing this today just to tork me off! :D PET PEEVE of honey's!

RedEyE
06-22-2003, 10:15 PM
Originally posted by honey
Do you know her husband? Are you friends with him at all? :( Bad vibes, man. Are you "in love" with her? Don't lead her on - at this point it's all lust, you can get over that. Kids involved? Bad scene if there are. Geez, what a dilemma.

I know her husband. Not well, but he's been around. I don't know if it's lust or not. I feel pretty strongly about her. I haven't felt this way for several years. No kids - thankfully.

RedEyE
06-22-2003, 10:15 PM
Originally posted by honey


I SWEAR! People are doing this today just to tork me off! :D PET PEEVE of honey's!

Corrected :)

honey
06-22-2003, 10:16 PM
No kids makes it much easier. Still...you have to be sure what you are doing, or it will be a HUGE mess! :(

RedEyE
06-22-2003, 10:16 PM
Originally posted by Typ0
Make sure you have sex with her before you don't get involved though...I forgot to say that.


:D

lol - ok

RedEyE
06-22-2003, 10:18 PM
Originally posted by honey
No kids makes it much easier. Still...you have to be sure what you are doing, or it will be a HUGE mess! :(

It's really already messy. I think Typo is right. I have to end this now. And like you said, if she divorces later, to try and pick it up from there

honey
06-22-2003, 10:18 PM
Originally posted by RedEyE


Corrected :)

Thank you, sweetie! :up:

honey
06-22-2003, 10:19 PM
Absolutely, Redeye - nothing says you can't wait until after the divorce! Much simpler! :up:

RedEyE
06-22-2003, 10:19 PM
Thanks to all of you for lending me your ears...........or in this case your eyes.

honey
06-22-2003, 10:21 PM
Take care and good luck, guy! I would hate to be put in that position. :(

RedEyE
06-22-2003, 10:21 PM
Originally posted by honey
Absolutely, Redeye - nothing says you can't wait until after the divorce! Much simpler! :up:


Agreed :up:


I'm just really glad that I was smart enough to not let it get to far that night. I would have Typo on the computer all night filling him in with the details.

RedEyE
06-22-2003, 10:22 PM
Originally posted by honey
Take care and good luck, guy! I would hate to be put in that position. :(


Thanks - I put myself there.

lordofgun
06-22-2003, 10:23 PM
Originally posted by RedEyE


It's really already messy. I think Typo is right. I have to end this now. And like you said, if she divorces later, to try and pick it up from there

Maybe you could hire someone to kiss her for you, ya know, while things are awkward. Then when things get straightened out, you could take over.

RedEyE
06-22-2003, 10:25 PM
Originally posted by lordofgun


Maybe you could hire someone to kiss her for you, ya know, while things are awkward. Then when things get straightened out, you could take over.

lol

Looking for a job? ;)

honey
06-22-2003, 10:26 PM
:eek: Redeye, sweetie, LOG is married! :rofl:

Dozerdog
06-22-2003, 10:26 PM
Thanks for nothing, guys......

You already talked him out if it....now I got nuttin' for material....


I was going to agree with Honey- enough with the socks....I was going to suggest sticking both shoes down your pants and telling her it's a glandular problem ....if she's still interested you got yourself a keeper! :up:

RedEyE
06-22-2003, 10:28 PM
Originally posted by honey
:eek: Redeye, sweetie, LOG is married! :rofl:

Damn, I keep running into this problem.

lordofgun
06-22-2003, 10:28 PM
Originally posted by RedEyE
Looking for a job? ;)

Weren't you listening? I don't work.

RedEyE
06-22-2003, 10:29 PM
Originally posted by Dozerdog
Thanks for nothing, guys......

You already talked him out if it....now I got nuttin' for material....


I was going to agree with Honey- enough with the socks....I was going to suggest sticking both shoes down your pants and telling her it's a glandular problem ....if she's still interested you got yourself a keeper! :up:


LMFAO - Dozer !

lordofgun
06-22-2003, 10:29 PM
Originally posted by RedEyE


Damn, I keep running into this problem.

:rofl:

RedEyE
06-22-2003, 10:29 PM
Originally posted by lordofgun


Weren't you listening? I don't work.


Speaking of listening, which Starflyer song were you refering to?

lordofgun
06-22-2003, 10:31 PM
The one I posted the other day.

<i>Shut Your Mouth</i>

RedEyE
06-22-2003, 10:32 PM
Originally posted by lordofgun
The one I posted the other day.

&lt;i&gt;Shut Your Mouth&lt;/i&gt;

Oh yeah

:rofl:


Sorry. I have a short term memory.

honey
06-22-2003, 10:38 PM
Originally posted by RedEyE


Oh yeah

:rofl:


Sorry. I have a short term memory.

Cool! Means you can forget about her faster! :rofl:

RedEyE
06-22-2003, 10:39 PM
Originally posted by honey


Cool! Means you can forget about her faster! :rofl:

What are you talking about? :scratch: ;)

lordofgun
06-22-2003, 10:41 PM
Originally posted by RedEyE


What are you talking about? :scratch: ;)

And she wonders why she's on my DEAD MEAT list. :shakeno:

honey
06-22-2003, 10:42 PM
Short term memory? :rofl: You're too funny! :D

lordofgun
06-22-2003, 10:44 PM
If I was your wife, and you did this, I would divorce you. :mad:

RedEyE
06-22-2003, 10:47 PM
lol - Maybe the ex was clairvoyent.

honey
06-22-2003, 10:48 PM
Originally posted by lordofgun
If I was your wife, and you did this, I would divorce you. :mad:

Yep - and, btw, log - you're on MY dead meat list, too! :D

log :sukrpnch: honey

Typ0
06-22-2003, 10:48 PM
It's deja vu all over again.

lordofgun
06-22-2003, 10:50 PM
Originally posted by RedEyE
Maybe the ex was clairvoyent.

That's a beautiful name.

honey
06-22-2003, 10:51 PM
Well, I'm too tired to do much tonight. Log can watch out tomorrow, though! :rofl:

Good luck, Red! Wait....aren't you BAMF? Hmmmm, no wonder....

:rofl:

:wave:

northernbillfan
06-22-2003, 10:51 PM
Originally posted by RedEyE
This past Friday during a get together with a few coworkers, I kissed my boss. She kissed me back.


To make things worse - - - - - She's married


and really hot.



I'm an idiot! Monday is going to be extremely awkward.

You're just living up to your nickname of BAMF!

Pretendd you were really drunk and out of it, and can't remember much about the night.

06-23-2003, 03:39 AM
If you're gonna do the stuffed sock thing, just make sure your put them on the front of your pants

shelby
06-23-2003, 04:55 AM
:yikes:

mush69
06-23-2003, 06:25 AM
Most likely her marriage is on the skids already if she will tell you that she isn't happy with the way things are going. She is probably just as confused as you are if she has a heart.

She just might be out for a roll in the hay, there are women out there that have no feelings what so ever for the man that loves them. I know I have been with a couple them, proposed to them and they were screwing around very shortly afterwards!

If a relationship starts out on the dishonest side, 2 people screwing around on their partner(s). Will you ever be able to trust her if you were to become a couple? I have some very good friends that started their relationship this way and to this day neither of them trust each other when they have a guys night out or a girls night out. Gets to the point where I don't want him to hang out me if she isn't around because she always hunts us down and makes a big scene if we are just having a couple of beers and enjoying the company of a female bartender!

Don't do it Man, as tempting as it is Don't. Wait untill she is single and persue her. Remember the rebound relationships never last, and usually cause a lot of hurt for both parties involved.

Good Luck!

Earthquake Enyart
06-23-2003, 06:56 AM
I don't understand why the focus is on her being married.

You should be scared ****less that she is your boss.

Match.com is full of married women who are looking for no strings sex. They don't want a divorce, they just want :hump:

06-23-2003, 07:04 AM
Don't dip your dink in the company ink

Patrick76777
06-23-2003, 08:15 AM
I wish I saw this earlier. EE is right. Who cares about her marriage! But this is one of those things you'll regret later in life. "DAMN I SHOULD HAVE BANGED HER!!!!!!" Make sure you seal the deal, but don't get involved with the divorce. Just let her know it's only about the sex.


Why let a marriage get in the way of good sex!

Voltron
06-23-2003, 08:36 AM
OK RedEye I have only read up to page 4 but I will lay it out.

I was the husband about 4 years ago. My wife cheated on me and to tell you the truth it has screwed up my entire life plan. I was supposed to have a 2 year old by now. I was supposed to be on the 3rd year of my mortgage. I was supposed to be with her for better or for worse, for richer for poor till death do us part. My wife and I could have maybe fixed this if he didn't push her. I agree it was her as much as him but it takes 2. He should have looked at that ring and said no but he didn't care about the sanctity of marriage.

I have heard about them since. After my divorce they were together about 6 months and they split. I guess the excitement of a taboo relationship wasn't there anymore. I also heard she met some one else before it ended. If you have feelings for this woman, Just remember ... once a cheater ALWAYS a cheater. A Marriage counselor told me that. No matter what religion you are I think a good rule to follow is "do unto others as you would have them do unto you"

I hope you think about this guys hopes and dreams the day he got married and give them a chance to try and see the problems they have and fix them.

Gunzlingr
06-23-2003, 09:40 AM
:up: Voltron.

Gunzlingr
06-23-2003, 09:41 AM
Originally posted by lordofgun
Tell her you want her husband to join in next time. That'll get rid of her.

But what if she is into the Menage?

06-23-2003, 09:49 AM
Mmmmmmmm...Lemon Menage

http://www.sandisrecipecorner.com/images/lemonmeringuepie.jpg

yle
06-23-2003, 10:34 AM
Originally posted by
If you're gonna do the stuffed sock thing, just make sure your put them on the front of your pants :rofl:

yle
06-23-2003, 10:35 AM
Originally posted by
Don't dip your dink in the company ink Or the classic ... Do not confuse thy rod with thy staff.

Mr. Miyagi
06-23-2003, 12:36 PM
So, RedEye, it was YOU.

You're a dead man. :chuk:

mybills
06-23-2003, 03:05 PM
Look at all the juicy chit chat you miss here when you log off too early!

I don't know who I feel bad for more..RedEye, EE & Patrick, or Voltron! :shakeno:

Since you've already agreed with Typ0 on waiting till later, I'd say you have the situation in hand. No pun intended! ;)

RedEyE
06-23-2003, 03:59 PM
Originally posted by Voltron
OK RedEye I have only read up to page 4 but I will lay it out.

I was the husband about 4 years ago. My wife cheated on me and to tell you the truth it has screwed up my entire life plan. I was supposed to have a 2 year old by now. I was supposed to be on the 3rd year of my mortgage. I was supposed to be with her for better or for worse, for richer for poor till death do us part. My wife and I could have maybe fixed this if he didn't push her. I agree it was her as much as him but it takes 2. He should have looked at that ring and said no but he didn't care about the sanctity of marriage.

I have heard about them since. After my divorce they were together about 6 months and they split. I guess the excitement of a taboo relationship wasn't there anymore. I also heard she met some one else before it ended. If you have feelings for this woman, Just remember ... once a cheater ALWAYS a cheater. A Marriage counselor told me that. No matter what religion you are I think a good rule to follow is &quot;do unto others as you would have them do unto you&quot;

I hope you think about this guys hopes and dreams the day he got married and give them a chance to try and see the problems they have and fix them.


Wow, this one hit home.

RedEyE
06-23-2003, 04:01 PM
Originally posted by northernbillfan


You're just living up to your nickname of BAMF!

Pretendd you were really drunk and out of it, and can't remember much about the night.

lol -

That name was given to me by an individual here. I didn't designate it myself.

RedEyE
06-23-2003, 04:03 PM
Originally posted by Earthquake Enyart
I don't understand why the focus is on her being married.

You should be scared ****less that she is your boss.

Match.com is full of married women who are looking for no strings sex. They don't want a divorce, they just want :hump:


I understand your point EE, but truly work has very little to do with it at this particular time. I more concerned about the individuals involved.

RedEyE
06-23-2003, 04:04 PM
Originally posted by mush69
Most likely her marriage is on the skids already if she will tell you that she isn't happy with the way things are going. She is probably just as confused as you are if she has a heart.

She just might be out for a roll in the hay, there are women out there that have no feelings what so ever for the man that loves them. I know I have been with a couple them, proposed to them and they were screwing around very shortly afterwards!

If a relationship starts out on the dishonest side, 2 people screwing around on their partner(s). Will you ever be able to trust her if you were to become a couple? I have some very good friends that started their relationship this way and to this day neither of them trust each other when they have a guys night out or a girls night out. Gets to the point where I don't want him to hang out me if she isn't around because she always hunts us down and makes a big scene if we are just having a couple of beers and enjoying the company of a female bartender!

Don't do it Man, as tempting as it is Don't. Wait untill she is single and persue her. Remember the rebound relationships never last, and usually cause a lot of hurt for both parties involved.

Good Luck!

Thanks Mush. Your advice was the most inciteful.